To best address our growing social, political, and economic problems, I believe humanity needs to incorporate the Collaboration Model in the 21st Century, rather than continue with the age-old Dominance Model, if we are to move away from poverty and war and toward prosperity and peace. The Collaboration Model has as its highest priority the caring for people. Its focus is the creation of mutually beneficial relationships. Simply stated, the Dominance Model is about top-down control and the...

Sometimes it’s easier to encourage others than to encourage ourselves, isn’t it? We need to give ourselves pep-talks like, “Yeah, I did work hard, and I am doing great! My routine isn’t perfect yet, but it’s coming along and I’m proud of myself!” Good self-talk is one way of rewarding yourself. Another way is to buy a little something special when you reach a milestone toward a long-term goal. Or take a mini-vacation, or treat yourself to a long phone conversation with a special friend. Be creat...

Creating positive change in our lives begins with understanding the principle of choice ~ of agency. The principle of choice makes change possible. I remember the very moment it happened for me. I was sitting on the front row of a seminar when the speaker quoted Eleanor Roosevelt. That great lady said, “No one can make me feel inferior without my consent.” I remember thinking, Wow! That means that we allow people to offend us. We allow people to make us angry. Our reaction to people and our c...

I love women! I love that we’re bonded because of our bodies and what they go through; because of our understanding of life and love; because of our hearts. Yes, women are very much alike. Especially older women. I believe that women 40 and older are strongly bonded with one another because we share the same history and because we’re aging together. The absolute truth is that most of us don’t like aging because we lose things as we age! That’s right, you know we do! We lose our smoot...

Wouldn’t it be thrilling to hurdle every barrier in your life and excel like you’ve never excelled before? You absolutely can! The first step is believing that it’s possible. Within each one of us there is a power we scarcely tap. This power has fueled heroic deeds since time began and has energized great inventors, artists and musicians throughout the ages. It’s the exact same power available to you every day of your life. It is the power of belief. What is a belief? It is a sense of certai...

LEARN TO JUST BE ~ BY CHRISTOPHER REEVE All of us have different strengths and insecurities. Truly courageous people (leaders) put aside their doubts and fears and say “follow me.” Even though I had once played the movie role of superman, after my horseback riding accident in 1995 at age 42, I was left paralyzed with no more than a 50-50 chance of living. My identity as an actor, husband, and father was centered around doing things. I was very hands-on. I enjoyed a very active life. Sudden...

The beliefs in your mind bring about the results in your life. When you stop accepting false beliefs, opinions, and fears, and begin filling your mind with thoughts of goodness and peace, you’ll be delighted to discover wonderful things occurring in your life. You will be able to hurdle barriers that you previously thought insurmountable, and begin excelling like never before. As children, we were powerless when given suggestions by people who were important to us. We often accepted into our ...

  Vision, Mission, Goals (VMG) Formula: The question most people must answer is not “Is this right or wrong?” but rather, “Which of all the good options should I choose?” The delightful fact is, you have a myriad of choices available relative to your path in life. However with so many choices, developing a system, a plan, by which to choose your ideal direction is critically important. VMG FORMULA V = Vision Statement Make a list of your core values. Answer: What is most impo...

  THINGS IMAGINED IN GREAT DETAIL BECOME LIKE, REAL How did you learn that you’re good at some things and not good at others? You experienced success and failure from your earliest years and you built beliefs about yourself based on these experiences, and on the way people reacted to you. For example, during your first years at school, if you excelled in art, your work was praised. If you repeatedly bungled math problems, you were reproved. You learned, from experience and other people’s ...